Day 12 Williams/Bradfort Family Support Therapy Network

Emelies therapy exercises for letting family hurt and angry emotions go under the bridge for good! No resurfacing aloud! There were only 3 issues of these kind aloud to deal with per meeting however, since the emotional severity of them could often cause a total nervous breakdown of any one of them! First she sat down with all six of them including herself, in that six of course. She explained all of the rules of this exercise, including the fact that today they were just addressing them by saying them out loud, there was to be no physical action taken on these 3 issues, or any mention of the 3 issues outside of the sacred room. Now after agreeing to the rules, they were all handed a note card on which they were to write down these 3 issues of hurt or anger they felt within the family. Bella volunteered to go first, she read off her card," number one, I feel feelings of hurt and anger about some decisons concerning Emelies living situation with all of you still, while the rest of us are out working are tails off to barely squeak by! Number two, I also hurt that family members don't think that I understand there disabilities properly, when I myself cope rather well with battles of my own everyday, that nobody seems to care to address. I may not want to address others in return because of this. Number three, o.k. I may think that some family members are not devoting there knowledge or finances properly to help the family, and knowing that I don't as well, does not stop me from being upset about it, since it kind of makes it look as though they are taking advantage of others disabilities in one way or another. Which I truly do not think is there intention on purpose, yet it is in fact taking place, what actions should those persons take to change this fact? Then Bella sat down. Leaving some more angry and hurt, and some wondering what they might do to try and better the situations. Then Aiden stood up and read from his card, " number one my feels on Emelie living with Mom and Dad are just the opposite of that of Bella's, some people need more support for a longer period of time, every person is different, number two Winnie would love to join in the meetings, yet she is going through some very hard stuff with her folks and can't manage emotionally to go through it twice with her family and mine both at the same time, I am not a part of her family issues as well this way we leave ourselves with less stress and burden, at this time we both agree it's for the best for everyone involved. Number 3 I do not believe that Bella can understand some of what her family members go through on a daily basis since she herself has never attended a family therapy session at all until now that is, which there is no doctor present so I'm not sure if it's clinically therapy or not. Then Emelie stood and read, Number one I feel a little hurt and angry with the whole control aspect of my living situation as if I have absolutely no say in the matter, it seems. Number two, I do feel Bella does understand her families disabilities alot more than she lets on, yet is too afraid she may hurt someone further, or push them back into a bad place of regression to let on too much just hoe much she does understand. Number 3, I do feel left behind at times, yet at other times I am brought back to the reality of how totally unprepared I am to move forward, as of yet anyway. Then, Janie stood to read her card,"number one, I wish that really my grown children would just, grow up already! Don't try to understand each others disabilities so much, because unless you are that person, you never will. Just love and care for each other and accept each other for the unique and sensitive, beautiful people that I know you all to be. Number two, don't worry so much about Dad and Grandpa's health issues, I know it's hard not to, believe me of all people I know this, but it doesn't help them to see you tearing each other apart about it all, it just helps make them feel even worse, that's all it does! Number 3, I think it's absolutely great how Aiden and Winnie are handling there families issues, it's very mature, and I'm very proud of them both for it! Thomas read his card, number one. So, besides struggling everyday with severe health issues, as I do, every day is alot easier and not so damned overwhelming, and well hell, I'll just say it. Mind numbingly scary for me! Knowing each and every day I can come home from another doctors appointment with little to no hope. To find my 3 loving, smart, and beautiful children, trying there damnedest to make things less difficult for me in one way or another. I am a very blessed man, and feel so loved and couldn't ask for a better family in a million years, your all absolutely great in your own ways, don't ever change for anyone, ever! Number 2, I do believe that some of are activities are helpful, however I do believe that we need more of them and more effective ones to alleviate depressions and anxieties of daily life today. Number 3 I really appreciate all of the music's played not just mine, and that's the truth , so don't argue over that! HA! HA! Then Grandpa Alan stood and read his card. Number 1, I believe some things should be left unsaid to maintain a good relationship with a loved one, and not hurt there feelings too much as to make them want to avoid you all together, forever. Number 2 I believe some activities are helping too, but we do need more of them, so we don't get tired of doing the same old same old. Number 3 some people need to grow a bit of a thicker skin in this family, sometimes a joke or teasing is just for fun and not meant to make fun of or attack that person in any way, it's said out of caring not to be hurtful. So don't take it that way, please. So as they had agreed they were just to say them, actually addressing how to make these issues better will not be addressed until next week. When they would address another 3 issues. So Emelie put each persons card filed under there names into a file folder, until next week, when she would ask the family there opinions on how to best deal with each issue best. Then they would vote on this just like a working government would. As they wrapped up today's family therapy meeting, they all softly sang along to Rihanna's " Umberlla", another one of Bell's CDs. End of Day 12